Life’s detours often turn out to be life’s most beautiful moments. My pregnancy may have been a bit of a surprise, unexpected and something that happened faster than I thought. Something I weren’t sure if I was ready for but what’s not a surprise is how much I wanted my daughter, Zoe.
I was a solo mom since my pregnancy. And being the only person responsible for my daughter’s health and wellbeing is not exactly how I had imagined my life panning out. But I chose this path, and I know I’m rocking it. Being a parent is a lifelong commitment. It’s not like training for a marathon, where you train hard for months and months, then do the race and say “wow, that was hard.” I am a SOLO parent all day, 24/7 everyday. I have been for the last three years, and I will be for the foreseeable future.
So, is being a solo parent hard?
Yes, it can be tough doing this alone but would it be any easier if there was someone else here alongside me? Then I would have another relationship to maintain and someone else’s opinions and feelings to take into account. I chose to raise my daughter alone and we’re happy. And as much as I wanted to share about how and why I chose this path of solo parenthood, maybe in time but not at the moment as I am still in the process of healing.
Just like anything else in life, there are positives and negatives. I really believe that life is what you make it, and going around saying that life as a solo parent is hard can only serve to make my life seems hard to myself and to others.
So everyday, I choose to look at my life positively as it makes everything so much easier! Sure, my life right now may be filled with all night nursing sessions vs all night parties. But I wouldn’t trade it for the world. Cliché as it may sound. But I can’t imagine life without my Zoe now. I may have traded in the ‘freedom’ of my twenties for the joys of motherhood but this path is a good one. And not just good. It’s pretty amazing, actually. And I am loving every bits of it.
The love I have for Zoe is deep and raw and beyond anything else. Motherhood is one of life’s greatest adventures, at any age. And I don’t feel like Im missing out on anything. Truth be told, there will always be challenges and amazing moments at any age of life, whether you’re a mother or not. Because no one’s life is perfect. And everyone’s paths have zigzags and roadblocks.
So to my fellow solo moms and twenties or younger moms, just believe in yourself. This wild ride we call motherhood, we’ve got this. If you need a friend, I can be one because I see you, I was you. And I’m here to tell you that the we can do this! Life is tough but we’re tougher!
Momma ZG ❤